Letter Writing Fun!

It’s almost February! That means it’s time to start my new TBR! And celebrate Middle Son’s birthday! And Oldest Grandson’s birthday! (I call him Finch.) And if those weren’t exciting enough, it’s also International Correspondence Writing Month, affectionately known as InCoWriMo. I jumped on incowrimo.org a couple weeks ago to introduce myself and see who is participating this year; I now have a list of names for some potential new friends, and it’s time to get writing! I always have a bit of a hard time getting started, I never know what to say and end up sounding like a boring nerd. To the people kind enough to overlook that and respond, I am a much better conversationalist. I’m better at answering questions than coming up with interesting ones on my own, and I have to say, my life isn’t all that exciting, so I suppose I am rather boring.

Nevertheless! I love hearing from new people, and I really do love writing letters. And receiving letters. It’s so nice to see a handwritten letter in the mailbox, not just bills and junk mail. I have to admit, I have not always been the most faithful correspondent, which is something I intend to correct this year. I am not in school anymore, I only have one kiddo at home that needs me to take care of him (and he’s 15, so he is largely independent. I just need to make sure there is a steady supply of food. Constantly.), and I’m not much of a TV watcher, so I have no excuse. Granted, I read a lot, and I should be finishing a poetry manuscript, but I can certainly answer a letter when it arrives.

What does one write in an introductory letter to a potential new pen pal? Bella Grace Magazine offers these suggestions:

1.A moment of kindness you witnessed while people-watching
2. A place you’ve always wanted to visit and what you hope to do there
3. One thing on this season’s bucket list
4. A compliment you’ve always wanted to give to the recipient
5. A book or movie you’ve recently experienced and want to recommend
6. A person who has made a profound impact on your life
7. Something small you’ve accomplished recently that makes you feel really good
8. A list of questions you’ve always wanted to ask the recipient (NKP: If this is a new correspondent this doesn’t really help)
9. How you’d spend your ideal day
10. A holiday you’ve made up and how you’d like to celebrate it (NKP: You can make up holidays???)

Washigang.com suggests:

1.Write about your week! Share a funny story from your week, the best and worst things that happened, what you were grateful for and what you wish you did better. Describe some of the things you enjoyed doing, eating, watching etc.
2. Favorite things. Describe your current favorite things: food, books, movies, tv shows, places, animals etc. Ask your Pen Pal to do the same.
3. Write a quiz to help you get to know your Pen Pal, friend or Grandma even better!
4. Write a thank you letter to a friend, teacher, colleague or family member.
5. Share a favorite recipe! Add a story about what this recipe means to you, or about a time that you made it. Discuss things that you’re enjoying cooking at the moment.
6. Create a reading list, watch-list or listening list for your Pen Pal to enjoy. Ask them to send you one back. This will give you an opportunity to discuss your opinions later on.
7. Share what it was like for you growing up. Describe your favorite childhood memories about what you liked to do, what it was like in your family and where you lived etc.
8. Write about your ideal holiday and the kinds of things you like to do when traveling. Ask your Pen Pal the same question.
9. Do an art swap! Swapping art/crafts with someone is a lovely way to find new art or to collect art in an affordable way.
10. Talk about your life. Who’s important to you, what are your values and hopes & dreams for the future. What are things you enjoy about your life and what are things that you wish were different? (NKP: This sounds a little heavy…)

And finally, allisonmariealexander.com offers these funk and funky things to include with a letter:

  • newspaper clippings from your local newspaper
  • face masks
  • scrapbook paper
  • unusual or foreign coins (or a quarter with their state on it)
  • a watercolor palette (with dried paint from tubes, watercolor pencils,  or watercolor crayons)
  • fabric scraps
  • patterns (sewing, embroidery, cross-stitch, crochet, etc.)
  • business cards
  • feathers (make sure they’re clean  )
  • an aesthetic collage (either their aesthetic or yours)
  • playlists, lyrics, or artist suggestions
  • pamphlets from local business or visitor’s centers
  • a map of your city/state/province/etc. marked with your favorite places
  • a hand-drawn map of your property, house, bedroom, etc.
  • paint chips or paint cards in pretty colors
  • pictures cut from magazines, calendars, etc.
  • small works of art
  • printables
  • hand lettered verses or quotes
  • jokes or riddles
  • greeting cards (you can write the first part of your letter in these and add additional sheets of stationery as needed)

This is turning into a very long post. I’m sure you get the idea. You can also go on Pinterest to find a ton of letter suggestions. If you are interested in participating in InCoWriMo, visit https://incowrimo.org/2025/01/incowrimo-address-exchange-2025/ and join the fun. (You do need to have or set up a Disqus account to list your contact info. If you are not comfortable sharing your information, you can say so, and people will message you by whatever means you prefer.)

Let me know if you’d like a letter or postcard! Happy writing!

February TBR & a Moral Dilemma

February is fast approaching and I’m thinking about books! I didn’t finish my January TBR as of this writing, and I will not unless I stay home and do nothing but read for the next three days (one can dream), so I will have to move those books to another month, or the end of February is there is time. Ordinarily I would just move the books to the following month, but I placed my February library orders last week based off random picks from page 124 of my Goodreads list and all of them have come in already! Thanks CWMARS, you’re the best!

Here is my February TBR (all synopses from Goodreads.com, per usual):

Microjoys by Cyndie Spiegel: Microjoys are a practice of uncovering joy and finding hope at any moment. They are accessible to everyone, despite all else . When we hone the ability to look for them, they are always available. Microjoys are the hidden wisdom, long-ago memories, subtle treasures, and ordinary delights that surround A polka-dot glass on a thrift store shelf. A dear friend’s kindness at just the right time. The neighborhood spice shop. A beloved family tradition. The simple quietude of being in love. A cherished chai recipe.
Cyndie Spiegel first began taking note of microjoys during the most difficult year of her life—when she experienced back-to-back unprecedented and devastating losses—and she found that these fleeting moments of hope helped her move through each day with a semblance of comfort and a lot more joy.
Through beautifully written narrative essays and prompts, Cyndie shares the microjoys that have kept her going through tough times and shows us how we can learn to see the microjoys in our own lives. Microjoys don’t change the truth of loss or make grief any more convenient, but they allow us to temporarily touch joy, keeping us buoyed and moving forward, one moment at a time.

The Unmaking of June Farrow by Adrienne Young: In the small mountain town of Jasper, North Carolina, June Farrow is waiting for fate to find her. The Farrow women are known for their thriving flower farm—and the mysterious curse that has plagued their family line. The whole town remembers the madness that led to Susanna Farrow’s disappearance, leaving June to be raised by her grandmother and haunted by rumors. It’s been a year since June started seeing and hearing things that weren’t there. Faint wind chimes, a voice calling her name, and a mysterious door appearing out of nowhere—the signs of what June always knew was coming. But June is determined to end the curse once and for all, even if she must sacrifice finding love and having a family of her own. After her grandmother’s death, June discovers a series of cryptic clues regarding her mother’s decades-old disappearance, except they only lead to more questions. But could the door she once assumed was a hallucination be the answer she’s been searching for? The next time it appears, June realizes she can touch it and walk past the threshold. And when she does, she embarks on a journey that will not only change both the past and the future, but also uncover the lingering mysteries of her small town and entangle her heart in an epic star-crossed love.

Lies We Sing to the Sea by Sarah Underwood: Each spring, Ithaca condemns twelve maidens to the noose. This is the price vengeful Poseidon demands for the lives of Queen Penelope’s twelve maids, hanged and cast into the depths centuries ago. But when that fate comes for Leto, death is not what she thought it would be. Instead, she wakes on a mysterious island and meets a girl with green eyes and the power to command the sea. A girl named Melantho, who says one more death can stop a thousand. The prince of Ithaca must die—or the tides of fate will drown them all.

By Any Other Name by Jodi Picoult (I do own this one as an eBook): Young playwright Melina Green has just written a new work inspired by the life of her Elizabethan ancestor Emilia Bassano. But seeing it performed is unlikely, in a theater world where the playing field isn’t level for women. As Melina wonders if she dares risk failure again, her best friend takes the decision out of her hands and submits the play to a festival under a male pseudonym. In 1581, young Emilia Bassano is a ward of English aristocrats. Her lessons on languages, history, and writing have endowed her with a sharp wit and a gift for storytelling, but like most women of her day, she is allowed no voice of her own. Forced to become a mistress to the Lord Chamberlain, who oversees all theatre productions in England, Emilia sees firsthand how the words of playwrights can move an audience. She begins to form a plan to secretly bring a play of her own to the stage—by paying an actor named William Shakespeare to front her work.

Only four on the planned list—February is a little month, after all. All of these books are new to me; if you’ve read any, let me know what you thought! I will also be continuing to read The Woman They Could Not Silence with my sister, and Margaret Atwood’s Paper Boats if I finish my planned four before the end of the month. I picked up an autographed copy while out on a Sister Day last fall. We have another one coming up next week in Portsmouth, NH, I can’t wait!

Books I’m trying to wrap up by the end of the week are Ezra Pound’s Literary Essays and Virginia Woolf’s Writer’s Diary. Woolf’s diary is a bit of a slog, and her overt classicism overshadows the interesting and valuable points she makes about writing. I am very torn about reading Ezra Pound. He makes brilliant statements about the craft of writing, but his background makes me wish these were written by someone else. Last year I listened to a podcast that discussed if it is okay to appreciate work created by terrible people; the author was speaking of a musician whose work she loved, but as she became an adult and learned about what kind of person he was, listening to his music made her question her own morals. I feel the same way about my books by Marion Zimmer Bradley. She was a brilliant wordsmith and created a realm of fantasy that I spent many wonderful hours wandering, but she was a vile person. Ezra Pound’s background is equally upsetting.

A 2021 article from The New York Times, written by Jennifer Finney Boylan addresses the question of whether one can separate the art from the artist, and I do feel it is a weighty question. (https://www.nytimes.com/2021/11/03/opinion/music-pop-culture-justice.html) Disturbingly, we are seeing more and more creatives being held up for unacceptable behavior; I fail to understand why anyone thinks they are above the rules of law and common decency. But this is not what this post is about. This is about the fact that I am reading essays by Ezra Pound, and while his personal beliefs give me the ick, he was a gifted writer, and I appreciate his work.

What are you planning to read in February? Have you read any of these books? Let me know! Stay well, be blessed, and I’ll be back soon.

NetGalley Review: The 369 Method Manifestation Journal

This was an interesting book; I requested it out of curiosity as manifestation has been a pretty big topic of discussion on social media sites, so I figured I would take a look. While I enjoyed reading it, I don’t think the subject is anything I can quite relate to. This book is well-written and a good guide for beginners that are willing to take the time to approach manifestation with the attention it requires; I am not that person. I think I will come back to this though. It has definitely piqued my interest.

NetGalley Review: One Creative Writing Prompt a Day

This book is absolutely priceless! The prompts had me giggling and reaching for my pen before I even finished reading it. Some are thought-provoking, some lighthearted, and others laugh-out-loud funny, so much so that I started reading it out loud to my family and we all began plotting mini stories. I received it as an eBook, but I will be buying a hard copy to add to my writing books. This is a wonderful resource for anyone that writes, is thinking about writing, or for any creative mind, really. The prompts invite you to think about things on the slant, and anyone will benefit from that.